This week has certainly been a mixed bag. Monday marked the return to school for all primary pupils in England and a staggered return for secondary school pupils. I am sure that parents up and down the country were relieved after what has been a challenging and memorable time. I loved reading about the schools that made a special effort to welcome pupils back such as laying down a red carpet and lining it with balloons and that pupils were running to greet their friends.
The news has been heavy going this week and I was deeply shocked and upset when I first read about Sarah Everard’s disappearance. Without wanting to be pessimistic I didn’t have a good feeling as in all my life I can’t remember a time where someone has been reported missing on the news to then be found alive and well. I admit that I then followed the story like a hawk, all the time I could hear my counselling tutor saying, ‘you need to think why it upsets or bothers you?’ I can’t really answer that question other than to say that I am soft, and I care, and I can’t bare to think that something absolutely horrendous could happen to someone. I guess I also cannot even begin to understand the mindset of someone capable of hurting anyone. I suppose we can’t help but think about ourselves and our loved ones when we hear something bad in the news and maybe more so because she was a year younger than me, and I have a lot of friends of a similar age.
When I watched Dame Cressida’s statement, I had goosebumps all over me, although she didn’t say that the body, they had found was Sarah’s she heavily implied that it was. Then to hear that a serving Met Police officer was arrested on suspicion of her kidnap and murder and who has now been charged with this made me feel sick. We don’t know what happened, we don’t know if Mr Couzen’s knew her, if he planned this or the events surrounding such a heinous crime.
Whatever happened I cannot stand by anyone pointing blame at Sarah for walking home from a friend’s house at 9pm at night. It sounds as though she had walked this route before, it was on a main road, she had spoken to her boyfriend whilst walking home, was wearing brightly coloured clothing and had her mobile phone with her. I am not sure what else she could have done. It is 2021, people should feel safe to be out and about on their own. No one should feel scared or unsafe or that we have to constantly look over our shoulder.
I saw that the police had posted on social media some ‘safety tips’ for women, which included planning your route, having a charged mobile phone, tell someone where you are going – all of which Sarah did. They then went on to say that from the moment you step out onto the street to look assertive, act and walk with confidence – all of which they suggest will make you appear in control. I’m shaking my head as I write this – who’s to say Sarah wasn’t doing all these things?! Are they suggesting that if she acted this way that she would still be alive?! Have you seen a photo of Mr Couzen’s?! He looks like he’s built like a shit brickhouse, in which case nobody stood a chance!
Dame Cressida also suggested that cases like Sarah’s are incredibly rare, yet 118 women and girls have already been killed in the UK this year by a man. Labour’s shadow domestic violence minister Jess Philips read out all their names as part of the International Women’s Day debate.
Sarah Everard was a beautiful, successful, popular young woman with her whole life ahead of her. I am sat here raising a glass to her and I am sending my thoughts to her family, friends and loved ones.
This week we have been playing in the garden as much as possible, my eldest daughter has mastered writing her name and has enjoyed doing lots of writing. We’ve done lots of Easter art, baked some buns and the girls had free reign decorating them!
I love watching the girls do their Tot Bop Boogie dance class (topbop.co.uk) as they know the warmups and cool downs off by height. Mummy has to join in too (of course) and I have particularly enjoyed doing The Charleston this week! I’ll sing and dance away in front of my girls, but I would freeze in front of anyone else!!
I braved taking the girls to a garden centre this week and they loved it – the last time we went was Christmas and they could both remember it in ridiculous detail!! They loved going around with their little trollies and having a ride on the tractor!
I feel incredibly lucky to have woken up with my girls crawling into bed for cuddles on Mother’s Day as well as being able to spend quality time with my Mum as I know so many people won’t be able to spend time with their loved ones this year due to lockdown. My Mum is an incredibly strong woman and someone who I admire and look up to. As well as being my Mum and my rock, she is also a true friend and although we can sometimes get on each other’s nerves I love seeing her everyday and miss her when I don’t. I’ll never be too old to give my Mum hugs!
Finally, I wanted to share that I now have 50 followers (in just over a month) – most of whom I don’t know. To say that I don’t have a clue how to share my blog, I feel proud that it has so many followers from nowhere. I love seeing the map showing who has read the blog and it has now been read by people in the Netherlands, America, Canada, Malaysia, South Africa, India, Romania, Indonesia, Egypt, Ireland, Poland, Switzerland, China, Albania and of course, the UK. Thank you to everyone who has read my blog and shared it!