Surrogacy part 11…

It’s been a busy couple of weeks, and it feels as though so much has happened in this time.

I went down to London to stay with Ali & Andrew for the weekend for our agreement session which all went well and so we are now officially a team!

It was lovely to spend some time with them on my own and as usual they went out their way to make me feel at home and spoilt me. They took me into London for a night out and we explored China Town (which I’d never been to before) and Soho. It felt bizarre to be out late and for it to be so busy, everywhere was buzzing which is something I’m not used but I enjoyed it (even if I was drinking mocktails!).

In the lead up to trying for the first time I did plenty of reading around the best ways to do insems at home and gathered quite a few good tips. I got a pineapple ready so that I could eat a piece of the core for the 5 days leading up to ovulation and complied a playlist of videos to watch to do with insemination as this is what I did when I tried for my girls.

I’m a firm believer that it’s worth giving things your best shot and so I wanted to do everything the same as when I conceived the previous 2 times.

Going into this I didn’t feel as in control as when I used a clinic as they do all the monitoring and control what is happening and when whereas this time round it’s down to me trying to work out when I’m ovulating and hope for the best.

Fortunately, it worked out that the 2 days leading up to ovulation for our first try was when my girls were away so at least we knew we had the first time without worrying about being disturbed or juggling how we were going to look after the girls whilst doing the deed.

Of course, we were both nervous as it was something new for us…neither of us had tried insems before and it felt like there were lots of things to remember. I tried to be as prepared as possible and so I had everything we needed to hand.

We were told that it’s a good idea to warm the syringe, pot and pre-seed before hand and I got all my pillows in the right position.

It was good that we’d had a few chats about it before hand and we both told each other that the first time was just a trial run with no pressure (not that I’ve ever felt pressured by them).

So when Ali went upstairs I had the TV on loud and played myself some feel good tunes with my headphones on and he messaged me with a 5 minute warning so I could go up and get ready whilst he let everything rest before drawing it up in the syringe (this was another suggestion as apparently it makes it easier to do). Then he came through and passed me the syringe and left me to it. The syringe part is very quick and easy and then I used a conception cup afterwards which is supposed to help keep everything up there. After I did my part, I stayed lying down with my hips slightly tilted for 10 minutes whilst I watched the videos about inseminations which I find fascinating. Our bodies are incredible!

We both felt everything went really smoothly and so the next couple of times we did insems that week seemed like a breeze.

In between insems, me and Ali went to the cinema, and we joked with one another about how he was supposed to wine and dine me first, not the other way around!

I believe that feeling comfortable around each other and being able to have a laugh about things really helped.

Yes, I am obviously taking things seriously but the last thing either of us needs is to feel stressed or pressured as this won’t help with anything.

I think due to anxiety on the lead up to and during the first insems we were both exhausted afterwards!

For now, Ali’s part is done, and I am left with the painstaking 14 day wait to find out if it has worked or not. Of course, I am not expecting for it to work the first time round but equally there’s always going to be a part of me that would like it to.

So, watch this space!!